It’s been a while since I’ve shared an update here. Life has been moving slowly, and so have I—but even in that slowness, the work has continued. Most of my energy these past months has gone quietly into the model, piece by piece, breath by breath. I’m finally at a …
It’s that time of year, when the days grow shorter, and the darkness grows longer. During this time, we learn to dance with the darkness of nature itself. A time to examine one’s darkness. Embracing our darkness is a journey of profound self-discovery. In the shadows, we find the raw, …
The Weight We Carry When No One Meets Us “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” -Henry David Thoreau wrote I have been circling this sentence since I was sixteen. I wrote essays about it in high school, carried it into my doctoral dissertation, and lived inside its …
For the Villain to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Creator. For the Victim to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Challenger. For the Bystander to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Mentor. For the Hero to find healing, is through …
If you express extreme self-respect, you may be perceived as selfish, self-invested, or narcissistic – maybe even a villain. Your reality may be that internally, you are thinking the most self-disrespectful things imaginable; and so externally you must inflate examples of strength to counter the internal, negative, self-thinking. If a …
Across the globe, in fear, one of our instincts is to stay connected, hold on to hope, and grieve together, each in our own ways. For some that looks like lightheartedness and remembering the joy that will inevitably return. For other’s, it looks like sitting in the sorrow, grief, and …
When I was growing up, I never learned what we now refer to as “appropriate” boundaries. In my world, boundaries were hierarchical. If you were older you had priority. If you were male you had priority. The more priority you had the more free reign you had; as in you …
Interpersonal Triangulation is helpful, only in that each person recognizes that what they see in another person, is their own chosen perception. If they are unable to recognize this – they unintentionally cause harm; especially if it is in relationship with another person. In other words, if I tell you …
Humans are meaning-making machines. What I mean by that is that meaning comes from within. It comes from inside of you. Many of us may have spent a lot of our lives looking for meaning from outside of us. We have this constant stream of thoughts that we are either …
