Born From Lived Experience and Clinical Practice
Dynamic Interpersonal Model emerged from years of research, therapeutic work, and the lived realities of caretaking, rupture, and repair.
It gives language to experiences that often go unnamed — the quiet contortions we make to stay connected, the roles we inherit without choosing, the ways we disappear inside our own survival strategies.
The model offers a way back to ourselves.
A Framework for Relational Clarity
The Dynamic Interpersonal Model (DIM) is a visual and conceptual tool that maps how people move through relational roles under different emotional conditions.
It helps us recognize when we are acting from scarcity — protecting, performing, withdrawing, or overextending — and how those patterns transform when we return to abundance, authenticity, and mutual recognition.
It is both clinically grounded and deeply human.
This visual sits at the heart of the Dynamic Interpersonal Model. It places scarcity and abundance side by side so you can see how the same roles shift under different conditions. It isn’t a judgment. It’s a map — a way to notice how pressure narrows your options and how presence opens them again.
Use the slider to explore both states. The roles stay the same, but their expression changes. Scarcity tightens. Abundance widens. This visual helps you locate yourself in a moment. Not to define you, but to reveal the forces shaping your response.
For Those Navigating Complexity
This model meets people where they are — not where they “should” be.
Victimhood isn’t a personality flaw—it’s a nervous system strategy that quietly reshapes the entire relational field. When someone feels powerless, others get pulled into roles around them, confirming the very story they’re trying to escape. This piece explores how that happens and how we reclaim agency without becoming the “bad guy.”
The narrative explores moments when individuals seek support during struggles. It contrasts two stories: in one, a patient mentor aids a friend in finding stability; in the other, an urgent approach leads to deeper distress. Both highlight the importance of emotional steadiness in communication, revealing how intentions can misfire.
In this article I look at all the healthy and unhealthy dynamics between a mentor and a victim – particularly what kinds of dynamics occur when either move through scarcity or abundance. 🌿The Healthy / Abundance Dynamics 1. Regulation Meets …
I will be presenting my model at Pacific University’s Annual Diversity Conference on May 12, 2026, focusing on culturally responsive care for underserved populations. The free online event offers CE credits and features expert speakers, breakout sessions on various topics, and addresses health disparities in low-resource communities.
A Functional Look Through the Dynamic Interpersonal Model People often assume my frustration with assumptions is personal — a quirk, a preference, a pet peeve. But it’s not personal at all. It’s structural. Assumptions and generalizations violate the very architecture …
A Quiet Rebuild Over the past several weeks, I’ve been revisiting and refining the language across this site. Not to change the model itself — but to make it more legible. The Dynamic Interpersonal Model has always been grounded in …
It’s been a while since I’ve shared an update here. Life has been moving slowly, and so have I—but even in that slowness, the work has continued. Most of my energy these past months has gone quietly into the model, …
Love in romantic relationships is a profound and multifaceted experience, encompassing both immense joy and significant challenges. At its worst, it can be deeply painful and disheartening, bringing out the darker aspects of our emotions and experiences, while leaving us …
It’s that time of year, when the days grow shorter, and the darkness grows longer. During this time, we learn to dance with the darkness of nature itself. A time to examine one’s darkness. Embracing our darkness is a journey …
“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation” – Henry David Thoreau I have been studying, analyzing, and contemplating this quote since I was 16-years-old. I even wrote two essays on it my junior year in high school, one for …
