Scarcity describes the nervous system when it loses access to flexibility and collapses into threat‑based functioning. In this state, the triad contracts into four predictable roles — Villain, Victim, Bystander, and Hero — each expressing a different strategy for managing overwhelm. Scarcity isn’t a flaw; it’s the body’s attempt to regain safety when connection feels out of reach.
In this article I look at all the healthy and unhealthy dynamics between a mentor and a victim – particularly what kinds of dynamics occur when either move through scarcity or abundance. 🌿The Healthy / Abundance Dynamics 1. Regulation Meets Dysregulation Healthy dynamic: The Mentor’s regulation becomes co-regulatory scaffolding rather …
It’s that time of year, when the days grow shorter, and the darkness grows longer. During this time, we learn to dance with the darkness of nature itself. A time to examine one’s darkness. Embracing our darkness is a journey of profound self-discovery. In the shadows, we find the raw, …
The Weight We Carry When No One Meets Us “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” -Henry David Thoreau wrote I have been circling this sentence since I was sixteen. I wrote essays about it in high school, carried it into my doctoral dissertation, and lived inside its …
For the Villain to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Creator. For the Victim to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Challenger. For the Bystander to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Mentor. For the Hero to find healing, is through …
If you express extreme self-respect, you may be perceived as selfish, self-invested, or narcissistic – maybe even a villain. Your reality may be that internally, you are thinking the most self-disrespectful things imaginable; and so externally you must inflate examples of strength to counter the internal, negative, self-thinking. If a …
Scientific thought and spirituality do not have to be at odds with each other.Instead, they are complementary and synergistic tools in our kit with which to make meaning out of our experience. When they overlap, this is where your personal truth lives.
Analog – in terms of wavelengths, means a spectrum of information flowing. Digital – also in terms of wavelengths, means on or off, 1 or 0, black or white. One or another. In analog speak – we make analogies….like metaphors. In digital speak – we live in pure survival, life, …
