Villainhood
Explore why the Villain role emerges, how intensity shapes relationships, and the healing arc from domination to Creatorhood. A clear, compassionate guide to power, agency, and relational transformation.
Recent Posts
Victimhood
Victimhood isn’t a personality flaw—it’s a nervous system strategy that quietly reshapes the entire relational field. When someone feels powerless, others get pulled into roles around them, confirming the very story they’re trying to escape. This piece explores how that happens and how we reclaim agency without becoming the “bad guy.”
When Support Helps — and When It Hurts
The narrative explores moments when individuals seek support during struggles. It contrasts two stories: in one, a patient mentor aids a friend in finding stability; in the other, an urgent approach leads to deeper distress. Both highlight the importance of emotional steadiness in communication, revealing how intentions can misfire.
When Mentor Meets Victim
In this article I look at all the healthy and unhealthy dynamics between a mentor and a victim – particularly what kinds of dynamics occur when either move through scarcity or abundance. 🌿The Healthy / Abundance Dynamics 1. Regulation Meets …
Pacific University’s Annual Diversity Conference
I will be presenting my model at Pacific University’s Annual Diversity Conference on May 12, 2026, focusing on culturally responsive care for underserved populations. The free online event offers CE credits and features expert speakers, breakout sessions on various topics, and addresses health disparities in low-resource communities.
Why Assumptions and Generalizations Are My Biggest Pet Peeve
A Functional Look Through the Dynamic Interpersonal Model People often assume my frustration with assumptions is personal — a quirk, a preference, a pet peeve. But it’s not personal at all. It’s structural. Assumptions and generalizations violate the very architecture …
A Quiet Rebuild
A Quiet Rebuild Over the past several weeks, I’ve been revisiting and refining the language across this site. Not to change the model itself — but to make it more legible. The Dynamic Interpersonal Model has always been grounded in …
Movement
It’s been a while since I’ve shared an update here. Life has been moving slowly, and so have I—but even in that slowness, the work has continued. Most of my energy these past months has gone quietly into the model, …
The Art of Romantic Love
Love in romantic relationships is a profound and multifaceted experience, encompassing both immense joy and significant challenges. At its worst, it can be deeply painful and disheartening, bringing out the darker aspects of our emotions and experiences, while leaving us …
Embracing the Darkness
It’s that time of year, when the days grow shorter, and the darkness grows longer. During this time, we learn to dance with the darkness of nature itself. A time to examine one’s darkness. Embracing our darkness is a journey …