In this article I look at all the healthy and unhealthy dynamics between a mentor and a victim – particularly what kinds of dynamics occur when either move through scarcity or abundance. 🌿The Healthy / Abundance Dynamics 1. Regulation Meets Dysregulation Healthy dynamic: The Mentor’s regulation becomes co-regulatory scaffolding rather …
“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation” – Henry David Thoreau I have been studying, analyzing, and contemplating this quote since I was 16-years-old. I even wrote two essays on it my junior year in high school, one for history class, the other for advanced English (I still have …
For the Villain to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Creator. For the Victim to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Challenger. For the Bystander to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Mentor. For the Hero to find healing, is through …
If you express extreme self-respect, you may be perceived as selfish, self-invested, or narcissistic – maybe even a villain. Your reality may be that internally, you are thinking the most self-disrespectful things imaginable; and so externally you must inflate examples of strength to counter the internal, negative, self-thinking. If a …
When I was growing up, I never learned what we now refer to as “appropriate” boundaries. In my world, boundaries were hierarchical. If you were older you had priority. If you were male you had priority. The more priority you had the more free reign you had; as in you …
Humans are meaning-making machines. What I mean by that is that meaning comes from within. It comes from inside of you. Many of us may have spent a lot of our lives looking for meaning from outside of us. We have this constant stream of thoughts that we are either …
Analog – in terms of wavelengths, means a spectrum of information flowing. Digital – also in terms of wavelengths, means on or off, 1 or 0, black or white. One or another. In analog speak – we make analogies….like metaphors. In digital speak – we live in pure survival, life, …
