Illustrate Interpersonal Triangulation Concepts

Interpersonal Triangulation

Interpersonal Triangulation is helpful, only in that each person recognizes that what they see in another person, is their own chosen perception.  If they are unable to recognize this – they unintentionally cause harm; especially if it is in relationship with another person.

In other words, if I tell you my perception of a movie – without you telling me your perception first – you will know that what I saw is based on what I chose to see.  When we can see similar things – we can know that we’re that much closer to the truth of the thing we are perceiving.  The things that are different are not necessarily untrue – they are truths as seen from our perception (as driven by our chosen associations and memories).  This only happens when we are able to hold our own truths.  If we do not hold responsibility for our own truths, we will get tangled in what we see reflected to us as part of our own truth.

Now imagine we’re talking about our perceptions of another person.  Imagine it from the context of family.  Say your sibling says to you something they perceived about another sibling; yet it is based on half truths and made up perceptions in one’s own head about who they wish they were instead of who they actually are.  It’s almost like playing the telephone game; only worse – because the information to start off with is inaccurate.  This is what we mean by, “the devil tells lies with half-truths – which is what makes them so convincing”.  “The devil” is literally a designation in our head for things we don’t want to face, but instead would let our shadow hold on to and suffer with for us.  Then when we do these things (from our devil orientation), we create pain and suffering….like the Devil.

In other words – we are the devil.  We are all the things we perceive the devil to be.  We are also all the things that we perceive god to be.