A Functional Look Through the Dynamic Interpersonal Model People often assume my frustration with assumptions is personal — a quirk, a preference, a pet peeve. But it’s not personal at all. It’s structural. Assumptions and generalizations violate the very architecture my mind, my work, and the Dynamic Interpersonal Model are …
A Quiet Rebuild Over the past several weeks, I’ve been revisiting and refining the language across this site. Not to change the model itself — but to make it more legible. The Dynamic Interpersonal Model has always been grounded in lived experience, clinical insight, and relational truth. What needed attention …
It’s been a while since I’ve shared an update here. Life has been moving slowly, and so have I—but even in that slowness, the work has continued. Most of my energy these past months has gone quietly into the model, piece by piece, breath by breath. I’m finally at a …
Love in romantic relationships is a profound and multifaceted experience, encompassing both immense joy and significant challenges. At its worst, it can be deeply painful and disheartening, bringing out the darker aspects of our emotions and experiences, while leaving us feeling vulnerable and wounded. At its best, love is a …
It’s that time of year, when the days grow shorter, and the darkness grows longer. During this time, we learn to dance with the darkness of nature itself. A time to examine one’s darkness. Embracing our darkness is a journey of profound self-discovery. In the shadows, we find the raw, …
“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation” – Henry David Thoreau I have been studying, analyzing, and contemplating this quote since I was 16-years-old. I even wrote two essays on it my junior year in high school, one for history class, the other for advanced English (I still have …
For the Villain to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Creator. For the Victim to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Challenger. For the Bystander to find healing, is through the process of becoming a Mentor. For the Hero to find healing, is through …
If you express extreme self-respect, you may be perceived as selfish, self-invested, or narcissistic – maybe even a villain. Your reality may be that internally, you are thinking the most self-disrespectful things imaginable; and so externally you must inflate examples of strength to counter the internal, negative, self-thinking. If a …
Across the globe, in fear, one of our instincts is to stay connected, hold on to hope, and grieve together, each in our own ways. For some that looks like lightheartedness and remembering the joy that will inevitably return. For other’s, it looks like sitting in the sorrow, grief, and …
